Last week, one of the women in our Focus Group dropped me a line that slapped:

“I realized I’ve been making decisions like I’m still broke…
even though I’m not.”

Oof.
That’s it.
That’s the trap.

Most people don’t choose from vision.
They choose from survival.
From whatever feels urgent.
Familiar.
Safe.

And that’s exactly how you stay stuck in a loop that looks like “progress”, but feels like hell.

NO.

You don’t need another hack.
You don’t need another list.
You need direction.

Not:
“What’s the next best step?”
“How do I survive this week?”

But
“Who the hell do I want to be in 3 years?”
…and what would that version of me choose today?

Here’s the shift:

When you start making decisions from your future, not your fears, everything changes.

You stop saying yes to crumbs.
You stop building hamster wheels.
You start building gravity.

You walk away from “maybe someday.”
You stop over-fixing, over-pleasing, over-explaining, over-thinking.
You start moving like someone with a point of view.

Here’s the real trap:

If you don’t define your long-term vision,
someone else will.

• A client will.
• An algorithm will.
• Your high school self will.
• Your anxiety definitely will.

But when you do define it…
you stop negotiating with the version of you that’s afraid.
And you start acting like the version that already knows.

Try this:

Write this down:
“In 3 years, I want to…”
(Be honest. Be selfish. No realism allowed.)

Then ask:

• What would that future me not waste time on today?
• What would they absolutely do — even if it scares me?

Then do something.
Tiny is fine.
Just don’t keep waiting for clarity to strike like lightning.

Need help? Ask. 
That’s what I’m here for.

Because here’s the brutal truth:
Most people plan for next week.
That’s why their life looks the same every year.

Plan from 3 years out, and suddenly your moves start making sense.

This is exactly the shift we make inside the Focus Group:

→ Long-term clarity.
→ Short-term boldness.
→ No more playing small with your future.

DM me “FOCUS” if you’re done looping and ready to move different.

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